Learn the tactics manipulators, scammers and high-control groups use, and the research behind them, so you can recognise them and protect yourself.
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The common ways a partner, friend or family member can manipulate you, with the names people use for them so you can spot the pattern.
40 total questions
Card #1
Gaslighting
Card #2
Love bombing
Card #3
Who coined the term DARVO?
1. Your partner keeps mentioning how much attention their ex still gives them, and seems pleased when you get jealous. Which tactic is this?
2. You were told you'd earn your partner's trust by sharing your passwords. You did, and now they say real trust means giving up your weekly evening with friends. Which tactic is this?
3. Your mother says, "After everything I've sacrificed for you, I suppose I'll just spend the holiday alone." Which tactic is this most likely to be?
1. The word gaslighting comes from Patrick Hamilton's 1938 play Gas ___, in which a husband secretly makes the lights dim and insists his wife is imagining it.
Hint: What a gas lamp gives off
2. Affection that is given and taken away unpredictably is called intermittent ___, and it makes people cling harder than consistent kindness does.
Hint: A behaviourist word for reward
3. Psychologist Lenore ___ described the cycle of abuse in her 1979 book The Battered Woman.
Hint: Someone who goes on foot
